tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-327544553976967122.post2383231699799591212..comments2024-03-27T05:50:16.659+00:00Comments on We Mixed Our Drinks: Just call it what it isHannah Mudgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06367085612049349757noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-327544553976967122.post-79843299268724112802010-11-22T11:32:43.565+00:002010-11-22T11:32:43.565+00:00shameless self promotion but have written about th...shameless self promotion but have written about this on my blog too:<br />http://sianandcrookedrib.blogspot.com/2010/11/consent-education-and-rape.html<br /><br />of course there is nothing to excuse women making false accusations of rape, but the numbers are tiny compared to the number of women who are raped and the numbers of men who rape. and get away with it. but the way right wing media report it, you would believe that false accusations happen all the time.<br /><br />interestingly (sickeningly) they often report 'false accusations' that are unproven, or have not even been charged or taken to court. one example was with jack tweedy. now, of course, he was found innocent and i am not going to libel him, but the reports of his acquittal instantly framed it that he was falsely accused. however, he never accused her of this, he never reported her to the police or pressed charges. but according to the press, him being acquitted instantly correlated to her being a liar.sianandcrookedribhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00959715300131969670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-327544553976967122.post-18444332201864351592010-11-19T11:30:09.333+00:002010-11-19T11:30:09.333+00:00Brilliant post Hannah. You really get to the nub o...Brilliant post Hannah. You really get to the nub of the issue.<br /><br />I find it interesting that rape jokes have become more popular and prevalent as the courts and the police become less keen to use the word rape, preferring to trot out cliches and euphemisms.<br /><br />I also find it interesting (and by that I actually mean infuriating, heartbreaking and rage inspiring) that I have been trying to get a volunteer post working with victims of sexual assault and cannot get one in the South East for love nor money because the funding for Rape Crisis charities and things like Eaves' Amina project has been slashed.<br /><br />I want to pass on what I've learnt from being raped twice, reporting it and lving with the horrific consquences of it all. I also want to use the opportunity to help me learn new work skills and get off the benefits I've been forced to live on, but no, being punished for being a rape victim carries on long after the police and courts are done with you...gherkingirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12440614300240880834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-327544553976967122.post-72151078055196534362010-11-18T17:26:04.389+00:002010-11-18T17:26:04.389+00:00Very well put, Hannah. I often can't read the ...Very well put, Hannah. I often can't read the comments on rape stories on, for example, the Mail website because they make me so angry and disgusted that I get very depressed about the state of things. The courts are completely out of touch with reality anyway (you only have to look at the 'Twitter joke trial' for evidence of that!) and the press are definitely making things worse with their attitude towards rape victims. It's easy enough to criticse and laugh at the likes of the Mail and the Sun from an educated, informed perspective, but I think a lot of people forget there's a whole audience - especially young men - for whom these reports are all they ever read or hear about rape. It also feels like you have to be an outspoken feminist to criticise these views; it doesn't seem as if anyone else ever stands up to the comments. Going to RT this post on Twitter now xBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04766892036985872760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-327544553976967122.post-64742499379815602502010-11-18T16:36:21.878+00:002010-11-18T16:36:21.878+00:00I love this guff about women 'ruining mens'...I love this guff about women 'ruining mens' lives' by crying rape, but the women who do so and are not actually raped at all, merely drunk and regret it or are bitter and vengeful are as much to blame as the courts, the press and the police. It's because people are lying to mess with the system that the system has become so grim to mess with. <br />But that doesn't excuse an anonymous commentator ever saying 'bitch deserved it/she was asking for it/something better attributed to Mel Gibson'. How would they like it if it was their sister, daughter or best friend?The Social Mediatrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697263069260335700noreply@blogger.com